Wednesday, August 31, 2011

A Necessary Farewell

"Don't be dismayed at goodbyes.  A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.  And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends."  - Illusions, by Richard Bach

I have said goodbye it seems thousands of times in the past several years......that is just part of working at a rehab center, but it doesn't make it easy.  I often think of students that I have taught, I wonder how they are,
and hope that life is treating them kind.  You'd think I would be use to the goodbyes by now.......but I am not.

Through out  my life I have said goodbye to friends, those who have moved away, those who have passed on to the next life.  Goodbyes of any kind are difficult for me.  Those that I let into my heart, when they leave.....well, I think my heart is covered in cracks from all the goodbyes.

Rick and I recently  wrote a song about friends, "I Think of You" is a love song of sorts about our friends.  No, I am not posting the lyrics, because soon we'll record it, and I will post a video.  The quote from Illusions says so much about goodbyes.  I love, "......a farewell is necessary before you can meet again"  Isn't that a wonderful thought, ......saying goodbye just means you'll meet again.

There are a couple of friends that I have been trying to reach the past few weeks, the last time I spoke to one of them, his health was not the best.......these days I try not to think that our next meeting might be in the next lifetime.  My friends are scattered across the four corners of the earth and many of them I know I won't see again in this lifetime, but maybe the next.

I told a friend over the weekend that she should know, when I let you into my heart, you are there for the duration.......I love deep, I love with all my heart, and I love until I take my last breath.......she is having a rough time, and I wanted to remind her, that I am here for matter what.

Good bye, how can that word good be a part of parting, of leaving?    "but meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.".........that brings a smile to my face.  Have you ever met someone that you felt, that you knew, the two of you had a history, that this meeting was just a re-connecting, just picking up where you left off........and then there are those friends that you go for months or years without seeing, but once you see each other, it's like you were never apart.

I love the old story of "split a parts" know that the belly button was where you and your soul mate were attached, and then you were split a part......maybe there is truth in that, especially of friends, that we were all connected in some way, and we keep finding our way back to each other, meeting again.

Just missing friends tonight......hoping that we meet again soon.
Goodnight, Sweet dreams


  1. I find goodbyes really really difficult.Even to my daughter for one day.Never go to airports if people are leaving.Just want to stay in last memories we had together.Lot of people that leave do not come abck that soon.Maybe thats why

  2. My sister is leaving tomorrow morning after a two week visit. I've been feeling sad about it. We are so close. We understand each other as no one else does. I am going to miss her company so much. I find goodbyes hard too.

  3. I have found many instances of deja vu with people that enter my life. Years ago I had an employer and we both had this feeling we knew each other before and it would have been virtually impossible for that to have happened. I do look forward to seeing my departed friends and loved ones on the other side...


  4. My family are a long way away. I hate goodbyes.

  5. My closest friendships are ones where no matter how long we go without seeing each other, the moment we meet it's like we've never parted! I kind of like that.With these friends we never say good-bye, more see ya next time! Take care