July 16, one year ago today my life changed forever. There have been days that I didn't think I could go on and days I wished I wouldn't. Part of me left with Rick, maybe he didn't mean to take it with him, but he did.
All has changed, nothing has changed. I'm keeping the farm the way he wanted, the dogs are fine, the chickens are happy. It has been a cooler wetter than normal summer. That means some crops have thrived some have not. The blueberries were the tastiest ever and the hens are laying like crazy.
I almost see him sometimes out of the corner of my eye, I feel him daily. I hear his voice urging me on, saying you can do this.
I am finding my way, I have stumbled blindly so many times and fallen. I find the strength to get back up, though it takes awhile and there is nothing easy about it. The love and support of friends and family has been my fuel, without them, without his voice in the back of my head the will to live would have withered.
Today there is weed eating to be done, the chicken pen/house has to be cleaned. I slept very little last night, but all through the darkness, his voice was there for comfort, "you can do this." Before I go to sleep tonight, there is one more thing that will have to be done...I am picking up my guitar for the very first time since he left and just for him I am singing a song. That's my gift for him on this unwanted anniversary.
I think of the phrase he told everyone he met... How you doing, they would say? and his answer..".I am living the dream." We had an incredible dream together, I am left with the fragments but somehow some way, I am putting them back together and adding new parts. Nothing will ever be the same, but my answer now for that same question, How you doing?...."I'm ok."