Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Use Them Wisely

Human kindness......I was taught if you couldn't say something nice, keep your mouth shut.  In the past few days, I have been amazed at the lack of human kindness that has drifted my way. People have said downright ugly, tacky cruel things to Rick and myself and to a couple of our friends.

Some of the words were said by strangers ( and though they stung, we dealt with them).  The worst were the ones who came from "friends."  People that we share our time, our talents, our resources's not the first time it has happened, it won't be the last......but that doesn't lessen the pain of the words.

Words are weapons of incredible destruction.......they can break spirits, destroy wills, crush hearts and devastate creative energy.  Words change lives, often forever.

I realize that even with the best intentions, some words come out all wrong.......maybe you just can't phrase something the way it needs to be said, maybe the words were spoken without thinking, maybe no matter what you should have said nothing.

Words, once they are can't take them can apologize, beg forgiveness, and say I am sorry many times.......but words, can be very hard to forget.  The sting of hurtful words lasts far longer than a bee sting.

Rick and I worked through sharpness of the sting and I think, I hope that our friends have also......sadly, I know that those who spoke the words, won't ever be in the same place in our hearts and thoughts again......those words did change things.  It's not resentment or's awareness, the building of walls, the cushioning of hearts and feelings, so that the sting from that sharp tongue won't be felt again.

Words........use them wisely.


  1. Today I was feeling a bit low and a stranger smiled a real smile to me. It helped.

    Words have so much power. They change relationships.


  2.'s like the story in the bible...can't gather up the feathers left on the doorstep once they've been let out the bag.
    I have a sticker on my car...two words printed on it. Be Kind.
    Of course when I'm driving I sometimes wish it was facing me on the windshield cause the demon in me can come out...eek!

  3. Yes the tongue is mightier than the sword.

  4. I know what you mean. I tend to let go of those hurtful words. They can build up resentment within the body and the mind. They hurt the soul. Peace to both of you.

  5. I'm guilty, said a few things I've regretted. I hope those people forgive me. As I, have forgiven what was said that hurt me. Don't hold a grudge against that person. They may have regretted it also! Plus it eats you up! Inside. You don't need that.