"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not hanging around with ass holes." - William Gibson
Thanks to my friend Jennifer for reminding me of this quote today. I read something years ago about love, that loving someone is how that person makes you feel about yourself. Why would we spend time with people who tear us down or that we allow to make us feel unworthy? Even the writing, Desiderata reminds us to avoid those who vex our spirits.
Sometimes they just can't be avoided, those who find joy in tearing us down.......maybe we work with them, sometimes we are related to them..... and sometimes, we think we deserve to have them in our lives. Life is complicated isn't it? And often, we complicate things ourselves.......have you ever met someone and the instant you met them, there was that weird little alarm that went off......but you ignored all warnings and let that person in your life. Remember, your heart does not give bad advice.....neither does your gut.
Some of us want to save them, some of us just like the drama and the pain, some of us have a god complex and think we can change them, and some of us sink in the mire before we realize what has happened.
Most of my life, even as a child, I have trusted my instincts...... I can count on one hand, the times that I did not listen to my gut and heart, and ended up with someone in my life who did not have my best interest at heart. Thankfully,( as my mom use to say) when I woke up and faced reality......there was a way to walk away from those spirit vexers!
So, even though there may be those in your life that are ass holes and for whatever reason, they are going to be there for a while........spend as much time as you can with those who think you are wonderful. Remember
"we get what we think about, whether we want it or not" - Wayne Dyer........ and if you spend all your time with those who vex your spirit, you will attract more and more of them. Spend your time with those who make you feel loved, who appreciate your talents, who see the beauty of your soul, the kindness of your nature, who believe you will achieve greatness.....no matter what you do.
Know that just being human, makes you worthy of all things good and kind.
Good night, Sweet dreams