"The only way you may correct the bad things in your past is to add better things to your future." -Shiloh Morrison
At work, I hear a lot of sad stories, horrible heart breaking true stories......but the interesting thing for me is how these stories are told. Some are of them are told as a cleansing process, get them out, and move on if you will....some are told out of guilt and shame.....but some are told to perfection, you see the person telling the story has told it so many times, it has become a part of them that they wear with honor and pride.
It is hard to let go of the bad stuff, but holding on to it, reliving it every day, letting it become who we are crowds out any good that can come to us. Bad things happen to everyone, life is full of ups and downs and tragedies that can overwhelm even the most optimistic Polly Anna. But, to move on, to live again we have to allow the better things to come to us. It is, like attracts like.
I have friends that seem to always be struggling, with problems and sadness, and drama. But when I talk with them about finding a purpose, a reason to get up every day, they shake their head and look at me as if I drank all the kool aide. Someone asked this week, how do I go on,, what gives me my drive........I believe with all my heart it is purpose and the willingness to allow good and better things to come to me. I think finding people to help, ( writing a check is good) but rolling up your sleeves and really helping out, gives that sense of purpose. It doesn't have to be big stuff, take a meal to a friend who is sick, donate a few hours at a shelter or school or hospital. Giving of yourself and your time is an incredible gift, it brings the better things to you, and helps you to correct or let go of the bad in your past.
If the bad seems to be overtaking you, allow the good to come in......start small.....a smile, a gesture of kindness, it snowballs I promise. If your past haunts you, remind yourself it is just a memory , that all that is real is now. Twelve Step teaches one day at a time, some days it is just one breath at a time. Better things await you, are you willing to let them come into your life?
Wishing you good and better things tonight, wishing you sweet dreams.