Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Forgiving Oneself

In one of my classes today I had only one student show up, but it became apparent rather quickly that  he needed that one on one class.   He was filled with guilt and angst ridden, no one could have belittled him  any more than what he was doing. I spent a few minutes letting him know, reminding him that others had been down the same path and that sadly others would follow.

Forgiving oneself.........in rehab, it is that leap of faith that will help you get to the next level.  In every day life, it is a leap of faith.  It can be easy to forgive someone, but damn near impossible to forgive ourselves.  It seems we judge not only our neighbor's sins, but ours  and why?  We are not here to judge, we are here to learn and experience, we are that spiritual being having a human experience.

Mistakes are a part of being human, and yes we make the same ones more than once.....those thoughts that keep replaying in our heads.......the only power they have are what we give to them.
They are like old movies playing on the screen of the brain, just images......yet we give them tremendous, life altering, life stopping power.  Wallowing in the faded images that fill our brains, drowning in self-pity, and hating ourselves for weaknesses......what a waste of life and energy.

It is not easy to forgive ones self......you have to admit you failings, your mistakes.....you have to admit you are not perfect.....but, then you have to remind yourself that you are human, with the capacity to love and forgive not only others, but yourself .  To fully love others, you have to start with loving yourself, believing that you are worthy of love.......and we are all worthy of forgiveness and we are all worthy of love.


  1. Life for some is so messed up because of abuse and neglects in their childhood. Everyone is walking with some kind of childhood wounds, real or imagined that interferes in living life to the fullest. We are all like little computer programs running on what ever runs in our head and in our hearts,

    You don't have an easy job Jilda. It must take it's toll on you emotionally, but at the same time rewarding.


  2. Whenever I feel like I have little worth I have to remember that I feel like that because that was the way I was treated, of little worth. It takes a long time to overcome that and that is okay too.

  3. I'm glad he had you with him today. You have a gift and I hope he learned that he is somebody worthy of being forgiven and starting over.

  4. Great post, I agree it's one of the hardest things to forgive ourselves. Have a great day!


  5. It is wonderful you can help people to forgive and love themselves. We all make many mistakes. I used to feel guilty all the time and sometimes couldn't sleep because of that. I have learned to let things go and realize that no one is perfect.