The hardest lesson I have ever learned in my life.......was/is that you cannot make someone change.
Once I learned that lesson, once it stuck in my brain......my life became so much better, so much easier.
I see young and old struggle with that lesson almost daily......I painfully watch friends and family members struggle with it too. A simple, yet most difficult lesson to learn......you cannot make anyone change. When you try, you create resentment, anger, guilt and voids that cannot be filled.
People change because they want change......not because they need it or you want it for them.
The saddest words I have ever heard are from young singles about to embark on marriage uttering the words......they will change when we marry, or I can make them change later.
Just as you can't make someone love, you can't make them change.......so teach your children, save them much unhappiness,.......you can't make someone change.